Eat, play, laugh

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Tomorrow is Thanksgiving, at least for Americans, and this it the final post of this series. I’ve covered a few different topics gratitude, compassion, awe, but before you sit down tomorrow with significant (and insignificant) others, to eat yourself silly, I thought I’d tackle some seemingly “less adult” themes that might help to make your holiday weekend happier.

A fellow told me he was going to sky-diving school. He said, ‘I’ve been going for three months.’

I said, ‘How many successful jumps do you need to make before you graduate?’

He said, ‘All of them.’

How many times did you laugh in the last week? I hope a lot.  You probably didn’t laugh 300 times a day (the normal rate for a child. Adults average around 17 times). So there’s room for improvement.

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Laughter is great for the abs and it gets a lot of oxygen into the lungs, which makes you feel better.  Scientific study is showing that laughter really fundamentally helps you to lead a happier life. So making it a point to try and see the funny side of things is going to be good for you, and everyone your with.

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Humor can also stop a lot of arguments cold. At Thanksgiving especially, it pays to know some jokes or stories, even if they aren’t your own. Here’s true one that’s timely.

A Tennessee woman entered into a prolonged, fraught stand-off with a wild turkey that was blocking her car in her driveway.

She tried shouting at the turkey, charging it with her vehicle and also coaxing it out of her way by feeding it a raspberry, but ultimately conceded, “I’m not a wild turkey, so I really have no idea what a raspberry means to a turkey.”

In the end, she was able to scare the turkey away by hurling a frozen turkey at it.

Try to remember some embarrassing things that happened to you over the last year. They’re probably weren’t funny at the time. But now, in retrospect, they might be hilarious. And not just to yourself.

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Even chimps suffer embarrassing moments

Research has show that telling embarrassing stories about ourselves actually makes people like and trust us more. So, get your family and friends around the table to tell their tale and have a good laugh. Rebuild some bridges — through humor.

Good judgment comes from experience, and a lot of that comes from bad judgment. — Will Rodgers

Another thing that really helps buoy the mood during group-oriented holidays is play. Play is not just a button on a device.

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Play involves fun, others, and usually the joy that is “mistakes.” It’s something adults don’t do a lot of anymore. Adults tend to watch sports for example, but they don’t play them.

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This guy has play


Getting outside, running around playing flag football, or raking and then leaping into leaf piles, or going apple picking, try some serious bird watching, or leaf peeping while showing off your ugly sweater…

Yes, that means all at once!

gets the endorphins up and builds a group spirit.

If you’re stuck inside, light some candles, build a fire, make some hot cider, toast some pumpkin seeds for that long walk in the woods

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and make some pine cone bird feeders to take with you and hang, or break out the traditional actual board,  board games.

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In short, have some fun. Actual physical fun. Don’t worry social media and virtual reality will still be there when you get back.

If you can’t get your teenagers away from their devices, send them to The Purpose Challenge.   There they’ll find a Tool Kin with 4 days (perfect for Thanksgiving weekend) of short but interesting and thoughtful activities designed to help high school students figure out their purpose. (Other than just annoy you)

It helps get them pointed in the direction they may not know they want to go, and figure out what steps to take to be successful and happy their own way, in their own life. It will also give them something to talk about with you! It’s also worth $5,000 – $25000 in prize money for college if you’re a student graduating high school in 2018.



The hours

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This week, I want to tackle something something no one has enough of — time.

In an interesting study on awe, one of the things people felt when they experienced was an expansion of time. So the upshot is, if you want more time, get some awe in your life.

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For me, awe is standing under the starry sky. Alone in the darkness, under the vast expanse of space, with no sounds but crickets, I feel like everything just melts away. Including time.

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For you it might be standing in forest of ancient trees, or on top of a giant sky scraper. Whatever it is, try to give yourself an awe experience this week.

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Knowing you’re actual place in the universe now, after that time of awe, when you’ve gained a little mental space and time, have a ponder.

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Consider the gift that’s been given to you, and ask yourself how you really want to use the remainder of your hours.

Through the looking glass

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Continuing on with the gratitude theme this month ….

Consider today, as you go through your day, that every person you meet, read about, hear about, see around you, could be you.

You could have born that person, in that place, in those circumstances. You could have lived that life.

That could have been your job or spouse, your home or school, your country or neighborhood.

Those could have been your parents or children or grandchildren. Those could have been your religious beliefs, your values, your culture.

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That could be your debt, your sickness, your struggle, today?

That could be your business, your career, your opportunity,  your win.

That could be your loss, your success, your failure, your luck.

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It could have been your childhood, your education, your battle, your war.

It could be you driven from your home, or buying your first home.

It could be your addiction, your jail sentence, your lottery win, your gain.

It could be your history, or your future.

It could be your life, or your death.

You could have been …. anyone. You could become …. anyone.

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In thinking about that, do you feel grateful?

Do you remember all the times you caught a lucky break or another person played a role in the good things that happened to you?

Do you remember being that lucky break or person who reached out a hand to help? to someone else?

To someone that might have been … you.

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Giving Thnx a try

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It’s November, at last! Time to talk about things thankful. For a start, I’m going to mention I love this thing.

If you and your friends are spread across the country or the globe, you can use this as a way to reconnect and see what all the good that is going on in their lives this month.

If you’re planning on going home for Thanksgiving, get your family to participate as a group. Then when you get together, you can talk about all things everyone posted instead of the dry turkey and the game on tv.

You can even do this as a workplace, organization, or school. It’s a great way to keep people connected and fight that trend of downward spiral and loneliness that can set in for some folks during the holidays.

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Thnx4 is a free, online, shareable (every time you make an entry, you can choose to make that entry public or private) gratitude journal that makes it easier to say thanks, enjoy the benefits of thankfulness, and see what happens when you get into a better habit of experiencing and expressing gratitude.

It was created by the Greater Good Science Center (GGSC) at the University of California, Berkeley as a resource. It draws on two decades of research suggesting that people who regularly feel grateful:

  • report better health, reduce their risk of heart disease, and get better sleep
  • strengthen feelings of connection and satisfaction in their relationships
  • feel more satisfied with their lives, more joy and optimism, and less anxiety.



How it works:

  • Register for a 21-Day Gratitude Challenge either individually or as part of a group by clicking on the Get Started Now! button
  • Receive a friendly, informative ping from Thnx4 daily every other day for 3 weeks, inviting you to journal and share your gratitude, and rate your day-to-day feelings.
  • Throughout the challenge, your Thnx4 Insights page shows you how you typically use gratitude, and at the end, the overall impact of your Gratitude Challenge.
  • At your convenience thereafter, continue to enjoy the benefits of strengthening gratitude with Thnx4: better health, closer relationships, and greater happiness.

So, give it a try. I can say scientifically that you’ll be grateful you did!


Missing the obvious

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I’m taking a course through on the Science of Happiness. It’s been quite good. But in a recent live Q&A with the instructors, someone posted a question I found rather surprising.

Several people wanted to know the same thing: how to remain happy when tragic events like Las Vegas, or devastating events like hurricanes, happen.

I found myself thinking about why someone would ask that kind of question. After all, hurricanes are a natural event that happens every year. And they happen in the same place every year. The US has mass shootings repeatedly every year. It’s a chronic condition.

Why would someone assume such things wouldn’t happen? Or that they shouldn’t feel unhappy about them when they do?

Tragic events happen. These events mentioned are 100% foreseeable and to some extent even avoidable or at least could be drastically mitigated if the right laws and building codes, etc were in place.

Maybe the people asking the question aren’t unhappy in the face of tragedy. Maybe they’re really unhappy with the state and federal lawmakers who don’t want to do anything to help avoid or mitigate tragedy?

This picture shows an american football manufactured by Wilson lying on a football field. The football has the typical brown and redish color with some white lines painted on it and white laces on the top.

It’s hard to know. It’s like the football kneeling v standing thing. For me, kneeling and standing are both forms of deep respect. So I don’t have a problem with either. What I don’t understand is why we play the national anthem before sporting events.

These events aren’t patriotic rallies. It’s not the Olympics. It’s not a grade school trying to instill patriotism. These are huge billion dollar corporations paying mostly people of color to toss a ball around while most white people watch.

What is the point of playing the national anthem at sports events? I totally don’t get that. To me the answer is simple. Remove the playing of the anthem and instead play a team song. De-politicize events that aren’t political to being with.

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It’s like the Kurdish, Catalonia referendums for independence. Those are political situations. But I don’t understand the level of worked up ness over them. They want self-rule. Nothing wrong with that. They live there. It’s their land. They have a distinct culture and language. Why not?

Just let them go and just continue to build close trade, legal, and cultural partnerships with them. In the long-run, it’s the smart move. There’s no point in investing time and money into a civil war. It’s just a lose-lose situation.

This is my feeling on N Korea and Iran. I don’t care if they have nuclear weapons. It’s their country. They can do what the want. If the US didn’t want other countries to have nuclear weapons it should have long ago been a leader in the world and removed such weapons 100% from US arsenals. They’re useless anyway. And who needs 5000 nuclear weapons when 1 will destroy the planet?

But the US didn’t have the balls to say no to nukes, so … here we are.

Maybe if the US had exhibited better diplomacy over the years things wouldn’t now be so nuts. Because let’s be honest, there’s always nuts in the world. There’s always bad actors. Sometimes those nuts and bad actors are other countries, sometimes they’re your own.

But countries shouldn’t be doing all the can to make another country more nuts. And they can disengage from bad actors. Honestly, I question the underlying assumptions people in the US government, and governments in general, seem to be carrying around these days. But governments are reflections of people, so ….

American have some thinking to do.

Thinking is hard work; that's why so few do it. - Albert Einstein

Please think like you drink, responsibly.


This entry was posted on October 8, 2017.

Boot straps, and when to pull them

My Bootstraps Aren’t As Big As I Thought

There was a time I lived on an island that only had power from 10 am to 10 pm. The rest of the time, you had to get creative. I’ve never been through a hurricane like the people of Puerto Rico, but I do understand island life and problems.

The island I was on had one veterinarian, who was perpetually drunk and driving off the road. It had one doctor and no hospital. Once every week a ship brought things to the place like gas and mail, but only if the weather was good. If it was bad, you could go a month without goods or the ability to get off the island unless you wanted to sail to the mainland yourself.

Island people are generally pretty good at helping themselves. But I do want to encourage people that are out there, who may not have been living ruggedly beforehand, that there are ways you can help yourself (while help takes it’s sweet time to reach you) and you need to take them.

I’m pretty take charge in bad situations. I find the response of the Gov of PR unbelievable. He actually said on live tv that aid could not go to people because all the truck drivers were cleaning up their own homes. Really?

I would have declared martial law on day one and ordered everyone that held a truck class to licence to report to start moving aid. I would have held all gasoline for use by road clearance crews, aid carrying truckers, nursing homes and hospitals, and emergency services like police and fire, and finally communications workers who are trying to get cell towers back up.

I have really short shrift for people who are all about themselves.  Communities with a lot of damage need to figure out if they have any habitable structures. The ones that need repair first are the ones that house the most people or are the easiest to repair because they have minor repair issues (so you have to take in your neighbors, and their kids, and their pets).

That means mayors need to look at large structures that survived the hurricane. Structures such as churches, schools, city halls, and hotels to be repaired first and used for housing.  When you have 2,600 people in your community without housing, people repairing individual homes is not good sense. If there are limited repair items, limited lumber, plywood, roofing, hammers, etc, using such goods to fix one a house for one family instead of a school that can house 300 is just ridiculous.

Housing and warmth is a priority. You need to scour around for every usable thing and gather it all together so you know what you have. Gather up those broken trees and get them under a tarp drying out. That wood is going to be handy for heating your food, boiling your water and keeping you warm.

You can make clean water with a plastic bottle, some gravel and some sand. It’s pretty easy if you know how to do it. You need to establish a washing place and a bathing place for your community so no bad stuff gets into your water supply. You need to think how you’re going to get all the people through the next few months till substantial aid and repairs can take place.

Coral those chickens and goats, because they’ll give you eggs and milk for very little trouble. Get out on the sea and fish if you have row boat, kayak, or sail boat. If there are any gardens or farms, you need to get those back in order. You need to check your food supply. Make sure these will sustain you.

If there’s a power boat that floats but is not operational as a boat, it can be used as a relay signal point. You can probably get information out that way.  Most ships have satellite radios, if you can get them working off a battery. If not, take the battery and drain the fuel out of the engines of useless boats.

You need to find a clean water source and keep it that way. You need pit latrines if the sewage lines are out. You need graves if there are dead things that need burying.If you have to shovel your main road clear, you all need to do it. You need to establish a dump, for anything that doesn’t compost.

Whatever you got, you use it to help your community.

Everyone with horse or some bullocks should be transporting goods for their community, dragging debris away, and clearing roads. If you have to transport sick people in wagons, sledges, and on travois, you do that. Even a large dog can pull a wagon or travois if need be.

I do want to add that the airlines and ship lines and military have really dropped the ball.

Sending commercial planes out with empty seats because your airline’s computer is down at the take-off point is stupid. Send your planes out full and then let the passengers be vetted by the airport when they arrive at. Presumably your computers work there. If something is wrong with their ticket at that point, have security hold them.

At this point every plane should be leaving PR full if there are people that want to get out and there should be military troop ships and troop planes getting people out if they want to leave. And there should be shelters on the mainland of the US ready to take those people in and help them find accommodation and relatives.

The cruise ships lines should also be helping out. It’s not like anyone is booking cruises to the Caribbean now. So why not take some of those unused ships out and park them around the island as floating nursing homes, aid stations, and soup kitchens? It’s really the least these shipping lines can do.



There are plenty of ruined cars in PR. But that doesn’t mean the batteries are bad, or that there isn’t gas you can get out of the tank. Or wiring you can pull and use. Or a radio you can pull out and use. You have to take what you can use. Even tires can be used for rebuilding homes.

People need to get back into walkie talkies, ham radio, crank up radios, signal corps transmitters like they had in WWII, signal flags and or using mirrors and such for morse code. If you need help, you have to get the word out. And on that note, where is GOOGLE when you need them? Geeze, Google, you want to try out Project Loon? Take your balloons to PR and get their internet back up. Because India can wait. PR can’t.

Frankly small solar panels all over Africa produce a bulb of light for people at night and keep a radio or tv, or even a cooking coil going. I mean you can do a lot with a single solar panel. Not to mention you can use a bicycle to recharge a battery when there is no sun. So, if your problem is lack of electricity, there’s a lot of ways to fix that without waiting for someone to show up at your door.

Most of this stuff could be airlifted into communities via helicopter. How hard is it to assign a chopper to drop an aid package with radio transmitters, solar panels, food and water and  1 tech to set it up and 1 medic to help the town, and then fly out critically injured people? Not hard. If you want to do it.

I really don’t know why critical aid is so delayed. I guess the Trump administration wants Puerto Rico to declare independence. It’s pretty clear the GOP doesn’t want to help, that they don’t see PR people as Americans. But I think it’s embarrassing.

The US is right there distributing aid and help to other countries around the globe, almost within hours of a disaster. But when one of its own territories is in need, and Trump is in charge, because they speak Spanish and have some debt, they’re ignored.

Yeah, and at a time when Trump and GOP opportunists are just fine with taking on 2.1 trillion in debt to give the ultra rich a tax break, they can’t lift a finger help Americans of color with some debt. That makes total sense.










This entry was posted on September 30, 2017.

Little acts, big implications

If you aren’t a student of history, you may not be aquainted with the term “Fifth Column.” These days, you’d do well to acquaint yourself with it.

Many people have been asking why unqualified people are being appointed to posts in our government they can’t possible handle. They can’t do the jobs they’ve been given, important jobs that keep the country running, so why are they there?

Apparently, they’re their because of their loyalty to Trump. And that’s the only reason they’re there. That’s what matters. But what are these loyal people there to do, because they must be there to do something, right? They can’t just be there to collect salaries as spoils, rewards, or hush money for what happened on the campaign.

Turns out, they’re actually spies. And they aren’t confined to within the govt.

In an article released by The Hill’s Ali Breland today, entitled Steve Bannon Sought to Spy on Facebook, it becomes apparent there’s a whole lot of fifth column action going on.

Quoting the Breland article:

Former White House chief strategist Stephen Bannon tried to spy on Facebook by planting a mole in the company, BuzzFeed reported.

According to internal emails obtained by the news outlet, Bannon was seeking to gain insight into Facebook’s hiring process.

“There is one for a DC-based ‘Public Policy Manager’ at Facebook’s What’s APP [sic] division. LinkedIn sent me a notice about some job openings,” Chris Gacek, a former congressional staffer who works for the conservative Family Research Council, wrote on Aug. 1, according to Buzzfeed. Gacek reportedly gave Bannon the idea of infiltrating Facebook.

This seems perfect for Breitbart to flood the zone with candidates of all stripe who will report back to you / Milo [Yiannopoulos] with INTEL about the job application process over at FB,” Gacek, who works at the  Family Research Council, continued.

Bannon forwarded the emails to Yiannopoulos, Breitbart’s former tech editor, later that day. Yiannopoulos resigned from the conservative website in February after a video surfaced of him defending pedophilia.

It’s unclear if Yiannopoulos, Bannon or Gacek pursued the plan further than the email exchange in August,

If you’re not weirded out by this, you really should be. There’s a whole lot of Bannon-Sessions-Trump activities that are straight up what Americans fought against in WWII.

Given Bannon already said he’s using the Nazi playbook and wants to be the GOP’s Leni Riefenstahl, in a previous interview, this sort of behavior should be no surprise. But I am constantly surprised by people not noticing what’s going on and failing to understanding stuff for what it is.

Look at what was said: This seems perfect for Breitbart to flood the zone with candidates of all stripe who will report back…   Chris Gacek is not floating just GOP or conservative candidates. He’s flooding the company with candidates of all stripes. The goal is to understand the application process, then craft a candidate that will pass with flying colors. The goal is to get someone in there to spy, for Bannon, who at the time was in the White House working for Trump (and Sessions).

And the person who is suggesting to Bannon they infiltrate Facebook,  is Chris Gacek. He works for the supposedly Christian, Family Research Council. I mean, seriously? How twisted is this. This isn’t family research. This has nothing to do with Christian behavior. This is straight up Fifth Column espionage with a political agenda.

I think a broad spectrum of voices need to be heard to make a democracy function. Unity out of diverse views makes a democracy. What doesn’t make a democracy is one group, with extreme views about everything, attempting to take over from within.

I think it’s pretty clear, I believe in democracy.  I believe that traditional Republican voters, like Greens, Libertarians, and Independents, should all have a voice in government because they each represent the views of many voters. Out of many ideas, the best should be implemented. The same should hold true of American businesses.

If you want to be a powerhouse, you need ideas from across a wide number of people and views. Good ideas aren’t confined to one race, gender, political view point, or country of origin.

I used to have some respect for the GOP. I admit I lost almost all of that in 2008 when GOP polices caused the markets to crash and destroyed people lives. When Romney gave his 47% speech, in 2012, I knew I’d never vote GOP again.

At this point, with all that’s been  confirmed as true,  I consider Trump to be an illegitimate president. And all his appointees and the GOP leaders who are happy to go along with him sabotaging the country? To me, they’re basically Quislings.

A democratic government should not be trying to infiltrate businesses to ultimately spy on them, in hopes of …. I’m not sure if it’s limited to just to subvert, manipulate, coerce, or co-opt them to a truly un-American nazi-based agenda or if it goes beyond that to hopes of spying on others there, controlling them, profiting off them through insider trading, gathering compromising info or …..

I don’t care what side of the aisle you’re sitting on, this behavior is un-American. And it was being done while Bannon was White House Chief Strategist. So, this is a White House agenda. Are you listening Mr Mueller of the FBI?

Fair warning to all media and other American businesses, genuine Fifth Columnist spies are out there. Do your due diligence. Don’t hire them. Don’t even interview them. I’m sorry but the WWII poster below clearly shows, we’re still fighting the same war. It’s just now we’re doing it at home. Do your part America.

This entry was posted on September 25, 2017.